Talking to Someone in Recovery Need Not be Difficult

Here are 5 handy tips to help you along the way

1. Listen More, Talk Less

It is important to note that your loved one might be attending groups, therapy sessions or speaking to professionals who are helping them focus on the diseased part of their addiction. There may be a lot of new information and emotional change to the process for the individual. Whilst you may be focussed on the immediate solution, theirs’ is a journey of processing the past and self-discovery. Communicating a solution is not easily explained at first. Instead of offering immediate opinions, it is better to simply listen. By offering your loved one the opportunity to talk, you invite them to explain as much as they feel comfortable with and without immediate opinion, they feel less judged and safe.

2. Leave the Past in the Past

Loving someone during active addiction can be difficult. The lies, the hurt from broken promises and the lack of trust can create trauma and leave much emotional pain. You may have a lot of feelings about what you observed or dealt with. However, commenting on this or how it affected you can easily trigger an outburst, especially if your loved one is in early recovery and feels guilty and shameful about these recent events.

3. Choose Your Words Wisely

Often people want to relate to the pain their loved one has gone through on their journey to recovery. This sparks a desire to disclose intimated stories about the past. If all you have even known is the individual in sobriety trying to remain on the present moment will serve you much better. If they do want to disclose their past, resist the urge to share stories of your own history with drugs or alcohol and let them share their journey comfortably, if they so choose.

4. Be A Message of Hope and Affirmation

People in early recovery often fear what their lives will become without substances, some will fear that they shall appear boring or unable to socialise. Take this opportunity to highlight the endless possibilities and bright future in front of them, regardless of their stage in life. A life free from substances can only be better than the pain of addiction. Affirm their goals and tell them how excited you are to see them fulfil their potential.

Learn More About Recovery

Utilise online resources to learn more about addiction and recovery. Whilst having your loved one back is great, seeing them having to invest so much into recovery may leave you with many unanswered questions, find out what your loved one has to do in order to maintain their recovery. This will help you understand and be supportive of their commitments.



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